Talk:Cinder Fall/@comment-25555436-20150324005506/@comment-4010415-20150325110458

In true BDSM, both partners make absolutely sure that each other is okay with what they're going to do.

First, they sit down and plan everything they're going to do in the scene. They make sure they both agree to it and they're not going to deviate from the plan.

Then, they play out the scene. If someone says the safe word, it's over. That's it. Period. Saying the safe word is the same as revoking consent, and if the other person continues, it counts as rape.

After the scene, they cuddle and comfort each other to bring each other out of the zone.

Then, they discuss what the scene and what they liked and didn't like.

So, at least BDSM involves a lot of cooperation and trust. Sure, the stuff they do is... rather weird and crazy, deviant even... But it's not like one straps the other down and just does whatever the hell they want.

Also, apparently, men are usually the ones who're submissive.