Board Thread:Speculation House/@comment-14138255-20141003002601/@comment-24891101-20141007194917

Mercen-X wrote: It's a horrible idea to reveal a crush to the person to whom it is directed ... let's just say it's difficult to imagine a guy who is selfless enough to let her down easy. Instead, he's more likely to take advantage of her while he can... unless he's gay... and proud of it. ...(albeit secretly... women can hold onto secret anger forever) What kinda crazy world do you live in? How else are relationships supposed to develop, without actual, honest communication? I can very easily imagine a person who isn't a fucking asshole letting down someone they're not interested in gently, and not advantaging themselves. It's called decency, and it's the expected behavior. Newsflash: everyone can hold onto secret anger for long periods of time; that's core aspect of the human condition.

What I despise is girls who say "I don't like you that way" without giving a reason at all. What exactly do I have to do to get you to like me? I see you like that jerk over there. Maybe if I treated you the way he does, you'd change your tune... nope. That didn't work. People do not need a reason, often because they themselves may not know. And even if they have a reason they can put to words, they are under no obligation to tell you. It's the nice thing to do, and is courteous, but it's not required. And often, there's nothing that can be done to get someone to like you, and thinking that way can be problematic. Sometimes there is no exact or approximate solution to the cost-benefit calculation, and it is folly to assume there is.