Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-25266931-20161128203912/@comment-25936766-20161202234447

KNN005 wrote: He acts like if he insults a singer's song they shouldn't feel anything about what he says. I've asked him before to dial it back but he won't listen. So I'm done with it. Alright, I'll be blunt: Grow a pair.

Yes, some people can be abrasive, and yes, many times, when people get pissed, exasperated, etc., they often throw some insults towards the argument and at times to the person....

.....But, that's no reason alone to simply ignore their argument. Just because someone is an ass, or is being an ass, it doesn't mean they have any less of a point. Ignoring someone's perfectly-valid points simply because they said "one or two meany things", that doesn't make you seem mature, it makes you seem childish and oversensitive.

Arguments are part of nearly every conversation. Opinions, part of every single conversation. If you give an opinion, everyone has the right to give theirs. And no one is forced to accept or like your opinions. If you give an opinion, everyone has the right to support it, ignore it, or confront it. And just because some aren't Mr. Nice Guys when doing so, it doesn't mean their opinion is invalid. Criticism, even caustic criticism, is, in the end, still criticism.

At the same time, if you see any "mean words" when someone speaks to you, think: Were you asking for it? 9/10 times, your "opinions" boil down to Egocentrism (incapability to see things from others's PoV), Hypocretism, Black-and-White mentality, Bias, and at times just plain Stupid things that are Factually wrong (such as when you argued using things like "Liquified crystals" and "Oil made from Ashes").

Basically, you may be asking for said "mean words" at times, knowingly or not. Of course, some people just have less patience than others and "fire the gun" sooner, or over lesser stuff. At the same time, even if you said something that invited insults, there's still the matter of proportion of the retribution. Because one can go "too far".

So basically, if someone says anything even slightly negative, don't ignore their entire argument like a baby with no backbone. Instead, consider if they were deserved, and proportional. If you think they weren't, filter-them out, then focus on the actual (counter-)argument.