Board Thread:Off Topic/@comment-70.164.250.74-20180315191229/@comment-26018514-20180317082638

2001:8A0:D21E:E301:84B0:AE1E:49B1:C9FE wrote: ...

I really don't think you understand human interactions from an objective viewpoint.

1. You say stalking is an unquestionably obsessive behavior that Blake should recognize as a red flag.

A. Adam was never stalking Blake, she left him for abusive behavior, not stalking, he didn't even actually pursue her... like ever. He meant to, but he didn't because he was forced to prioritize other things.

B. Sun wasn't actually stalking Blake in the obsessive sense, he was following a wounded friend hoping she would ask for help, same concept as a parent following a toddler attempting to assert it's independence exploring. He recognized she was not in the best emotional space to make decisions or be on her own, so he followed her.

He probably didn't understand where she was at mentally, because he is trusting, as evidenced by his line "...that's dumb, you should always get friends involved"(that may not be the exact quote as Idr what episode it was in to check right now) Whereas she approaches things from a deep seated mistrust due to being raised in the violent WF by a manipulative abuser that had her so confused it wasn't until the train she learned to trust herself, let alone trust others.

C. She never asked him not to follow her until he was already stuck on the boat to a place he'd never been, at which point he had nowhere else to go, and she made quite clear that it was not OK with her that he had been.

D. Ever heard of the phrase "rose tinted glasses?" they were bf/gf before she ran, and she ran because of her feelings for him and her friends, not because those feelings changed. This is ultimately why she allowed him to stay with her after they left the boat.

2. Relationships are not subjective: "different strokes for different folks", they also tend to follow patterns as we are creatures of habit, we don't always learn from them, despite the common delusion most people have to the contrary.